Why changing the mind is not the answer

Posted by on Sep 25, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Why changing the mind is not the answer

Changing the mind seems like a perfectly good answer when things don’t feel right. “Look on the bright side.” “Think more positively.” “Get a better job.” The only problem with changing the mind is that it doesn’t actually solve the problem of not feeling right because not feeling right has nothing to do with what the mind is paying attention to; it has only to do with feeling separate from the True Self, from every”one”, and from every”thing”. When I woke up early this morning with the feeling that something needed to change, I knew it was time to clear the mind again. As soon as I noticed that a concept had the mind’s attention, I tried to release it , but it wouldn’t budge.  I’ve realized that releasing cannot be forced so instead of trying to force it, I got up, got a snack, and watched the darkness clear as the sun rose. I sat and watched the early morning darkness fade.  As the darkness cleared, the feeling that something needed to change also cleared; I felt Oneness again. Instead of trying to get what the mind thought it wanted or needed, instead of trying to get someone or something to change, I patiently, lovingly, waited for the mind to clear (and it did, as it does, when I am ready). how do i clear the mind?     Is clearing the mind really necessary? Wouldn’t things have gotten better if he ______, or she _________? What if ___________ improved, or ___________ simply went away? Things would surely be better then, right?   Well, you can answer those questions based on your life experiences.  Chances are, better seems better.   What I am talking about is when “better” is no longer enough.   There comes a moment when you realize, “i got what i thought i wanted.  Things are better, but i still don’t feel quite right.” When you get to that point, the answer is not: changing the mind; the answer is: clearing the mind. *If you are not yet at that point, then you will likely find this blog to be rubbish.  Here’s what you can do when clearing the mind sounds crazy: proceed with life as usual    ...

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How to see beyond a noisy mind

Posted by on Sep 12, 2012 in how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

How to see beyond a noisy mind

  Last night I washed and waxed my car.  This morning the car is already covered in dust. Because I currently live down a very dusty road there isn’t any surprise about the car being dusty again, but dang. I looked at that shiny car covered in dust and saw an analogy…   Here it is: A dusty car and a noisy mind have a few things in common.  Let’s look at the dusty car first. Although the car is covered with dust there is nothing wrong with the car itself; it runs perfectly.  The car is even clean underneath all that dust; I can see the sparkles in the paint. The only “problem” is the dust covering the car. (This isn’t really even a problem because the car still runs perfectly.  It’s just that when I look at the car I see dust covering a car instead of directly seeing a clean car.)   The True Self is like the car and mental concepts are like the dust.  When the True Self is covered with mental concepts things look “dusty” (or cloudy, or confusing, or unfair, or something other than the Perfection that Is). Like the car, there is nothing wrong with the True Self when it is covered with mental concepts; It is still Perfection.  Just as the car is clean underneath all that dust, the True Self is clean underneath all those mental concepts. The only “problem” is the mental concepts covering the True Self.  (This isn’t really a problem either because the True Self is still Being ItSelf as Perfection.  It’s just that when i try to experience the True Self with a mind full of mental concepts i only experience the mental concepts covering the True Self instead of directly experiencing the True Self as the Real Me.)   OK, so now what?   Well, part of living down a dusty road means having a dusty car.  I accept that it is sometimes dusty, I clean the car, and repeat (or I move to a place without dust and accept the particulars of a different condition). Either way, my experience of the car is wonderful as long as I realize this.   Part of living in a material world means picking up patterns and collecting mental concepts, which makes the mind seem noisy and the world seem “dusty”.  I accept that life might sometimes seem “dusty or noisy” if i don’t routinely release those patterns.  I release any and all patterns (which is how I experience the Perfection directly), and I repeat (or I live alone in a dark hole and still release all day). Either way, the True Self is Complete and experiences Its Complete Perfection regardless of what a mind thinks or does.   So, it is not that the world is a “dusty” place.  It is that a mind filled with noise makes the world appear dusty.  If you wash away all that dust, Perfection is right Here.   Can You see It?   (Of course You can; You are It.)  ...

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Love and a fuchsia bucket

Posted by on Sep 2, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Love and a fuchsia bucket

I was peeing outside in a bucket this morning when I had the feeling, “peeing in a bucket is pretty great.”  In my recent experience, it’s better to pee in a clean bucket than it is to pee squatting over dry, pebble covered soil, and nettle leaves.  With a bucket, there’s no splash back on the ankles, no having to move my foot so that I don’t accidentally pee on it, and no wonder if I’m getting too close to that stinging nettle! I’ve been peeing in this bucket (which is really a fuchsia pitcher) for nearly three months now.  Back in May, Evan and I bought a teardrop trailer to tow behind our Scion TC and travel to nowhere in particular with no timeline at all.  So, that’s what we’ve been doing. A quick tour of our ‘little guy’ (that’s actually what it’s called): Inside: king-sized mattress, blankets, pillows, overhead cabinet with clothes. Outside on the front platform: storage bins containing kitchen gadgets, extra boots and jackets, camping gear. That’s it; that’s why I’ve been peeing in a bucket.  At first, peeing in a bucket seemed weird, but that’s just because I had been used to peeing in a toilet in a very clean house.  Now, peeing in a bucket is no big deal, it’s actually really, really relieving, quick, and easy.   What in the world does all this pee talk possibly have to do with emptying the mind of concepts?  Well, having traveled through many towns, I’ve noticed how differently people experience life and how insignificant those differences are when it comes to Love.  Some people live in cities packed with people, stores, cars, and lights while others live tucked away in trees without a store for miles, tractors on the road, and only the stars as night-time light.  Some people live in extravagant homes while others live on streets, in parks, and under bridges along the river.  Love is Love.  It does not recognize the “particulars” of a material world, It only recognizes ItSelf: Love.  (It does not recognize a right or wrong way to use a fuchsia bucket, for example). When the mind is clear, it is no longer thinking about what it thinks things should or should not be because it no longer possesses concepts to think about.  Without mental concepts, Love is all there is to see and experience. It does not matter where I am or what I am doing, Love is all there Is.  This morning, I just so happened to be sitting on a fuchsia bucket, with the sun rising over the trees, and cows mooing down by the pond.  I was smiling, “I’m peeing outside on a bucket.”   (Just in case the subtleties in this blog were too subtle, this blog is not really about a fuchsia bucket.  It’s about Love.  The “particulars” do not matter; only Love...

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Be the Creek

Posted by on Mar 15, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Be the Creek

The creek has no intention, no ambition, no plan.  The creek does not intend to flow downstream, it does not strive to nourish land, it does not plan to supply water.  Those things happen simply while the creek is being itself. The “purpose” then, is to not “have” a “purpose” (a mental idea of what i should or should not do) but to let go of all concepts and live as the Creek, live as the True Self. As the True Self, I have no intention, no ambition, no plan.  The True Self does not intend to Be everywhere, It does not strive to “help others” (as the mind perceives it), it does not plan to supply anything.  Those things simply happen while the True Self is Being...

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Is it the mind, or is it Me? Tips to tell the difference…

Posted by on Mar 1, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 2 comments

Is it the mind, or is it Me?  Tips to tell the difference…

The first tip that lets you know if what you are hearing is the mind or the True Self, is that the True Self does not wonder; It already Is.  So, “Is it the mind, or is it Me?” is a question that the mind asks.  (The True Self is always experiencing ItSelf as Complete Perfection so it obviously doesn’t have to ask.) There are other tips though, some more subtle than others.  We’ll start with a few obvious ones.  When you hear these things being said, it’s definitely the mind talking.     “I’m the kind of person…” “I know how I am…” “This is my truth.” “Those are my beliefs.” “I tend to…” “I am _________ (insert a condition, for example, good, bad, smart, stupid, …).” Wait, what? But… Yeah, that’s the mind talking, not You. How can that be? Well, just “think” about all the “thoughts” that follow each of those statements. Are any of those statements Absolute? “I’m the kind of person…”  (Have you always been the kind of person, will you always be the kind of person, are you really even a person?)   “I know how I am…” (Really? How can you tell if it’s You or if it’s simply “your” conditioning?)   “This is my truth.”  (Who is this “my” and how did it come to accept “truth”?)   “Those are my beliefs.” (Where did those beliefs come from and how does it feel to possess them? How does it feel to have them challenged?”)   “I tend to…” (How did the pattern start? Will it continue?)   “I am _________ (insert a condition, for example, good, bad, smart, stupid, …).”  (Are you?) Well, that should thoroughly confuse the mind. The point is, if it isn’t Absolute, it isn’t You. Don’t take my word for it, of course.  If you’re curious, just spend some time with all that mental noise and see what happens.  Hang out with the answers that the mind comes up with, and if you’re feelin’ frisky, let all those answers go and then see what...

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loving evie, loving Love

Posted by on Feb 17, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

loving evie, loving Love

I don’t really do much every day.  I go to the gym, drink lots of water, pick up some groceries, prepare meals, and do the dishes.  So it’s not really the doing that stands out so much in my day as it is the loving. I simply love to love.  It’s really the only thing that truly interests me.  Sure, sometimes working out interests me, and discovering a new wholesome food interests me, but those things ebb and flow.  The love is a steady thing. This morning, like most mornings, Evie (pronounced Ev-ee, sweet for Evan) woke up briefly, came and found me in the other room (I tend to wake up a little earlier than him, drink my morning greens, and sit in the den), rubbed his sleepy, half-open eyes and reached his arms out for a hug. I smiled at the sight of him, as I always do.  He is just sooooo precious!  We hugged.  I kissed his sleepy face, walked with him back to the bed, and tucked him in for sleepy time take two. Now, if you see this guy on the basketball court you might not have any idea that he’s such a big softie.  He’s all hard-core on his defense and he loooooves to talk trash.  I see him at the gym head nodding what’s up with his full-court friends, a low five here and there, and a laugh.  I smile; I got it bad. A few weeks ago Evie came home from the gym with a busted up brow.  He took a hit from an elbow while playing basketball and by the time I saw him, his face was pale, his eyebrow was all bloody and not entirely in place.  Eww.  I drove him to the urgent care, 15 stitches. I remember driving him to the urgent care that day and feeling so wonderfully happy about being able to be with him at that moment.  It felt so wonderful to love him and care for him, to be home when he came home, to drop everything to drive him, to wait with him at the Doctor’s office, drive him home, and tuck him in for rest. It’s like this all the time – simple days, lots of love. As I feel all this love for him, I release him.  (It’s not some separate form of a man that I truly love anyway, it’s the Love that He IS that I Love, which is the same Love that I Am.)  I release all ideas about “him”.  I release all ideas about “us”.  I release all ideas about “me”.   He is free to be himself, however that is.  I am free to be “my” self, however that is.  I let go.   …   Letting go feels so good.  It feels good to love the man “evie”, but it feels even more amazing to love the Love that Evie IS by Being the Love that I Am. I look around and see Love everywhere.  I feel it when I look at the rug, at the pillow, at the cup of water on the table.  I feel it just sitting here, typing, breathing, resting… Love Loves Love. i let go.  ...

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Hallmark, you’re killin’ me.

Posted by on Feb 14, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 2 comments

Hallmark, you’re killin’ me.

  Hallmark has a “valentine’s day” ad running that goes something like this: “Tell me I’m beautiful.  Tell me we’ll grow old together.  Tell me that I’m still the one.  Tell me that you need me.  Tell me you’ll never let me go.  Tell me you miss me.  Tell me you love me, it’s all I want to hear.”   Ahhhhhhh, just writing that hurts.  Whew.  Ok.   I used to date a guy who acted like that (key words, “used to”).  It’s not even the slighted bit hot to engage the mind and its false sense of separation, insecurity, neediness, want, sadness, longing, etc.  It’s not hot, at all. That mess up there, that, “I need to hear the words” mess, is the mind talking.  The True Self has nothing to do with that. The True Self IS Love ItSelf.  It does not miss, long, ache, hope for, or want.  The True Self already IS Complete Perfection. So, yes, “valentine’s day” is just another mental concept to be released.  But, if you’re not going to release the concept and experience Love directly as your Self, then at least know that the one demanding to be told “stuff” is the mind and NOT the Real, Actual Person that already IS Love. Say the words, buy the chocolates, the flowers, the heart-shaped treats, and the bling, if you think you must.  Just know that when your “loved one” gets over the excitement of hearing or getting what he/she thinks he/she wants, there will be another need, want, demand.  It’s got nothing to do with you and only to do with the noise running around in the mind. And for the record, I have nothing against heart-shaped treats; they’re really kind of cute.  It’s just that I prefer my heart-shaped treats as what they are – fun, heart-shaped treats.  They are no substitute for Being the Love that I Am.  ...

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Is it possible to love someone who hates you?

Posted by on Feb 9, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Is it possible to love someone who hates you?

This one is one of Evan’s.  (Evan is the sweet, loving presence that I spend just about all my time with.  He also just so happens to be the one who showed me Me before i could see It.)  I was reminded of this response he wrote a while back when I was talking with a friend the other day.  The friend is experiencing a fall-out with his parents.  It seems they’ve all gotten caught up in the seeming details of who’s right and who’s wrong.  When I suggested that he simply love them instead of pay attention to all the details that don’t have anything to do with Anything, he looked at me like I was crazy.  Be what You are, I clarified.  As Love, you see only Love; the details don’t matter.   So, is it possible to love someone who hates you?                                            … Technically it is not possible to love someone else at all. It is only possible to feel the Love that You are, while looking at someone else… and that has nothing to do with the someone, it only has to do with how you feel within. So it is possible to feel Love while in the presence of someone who ‘thinks’ they hate you (but actually they are just feeling hate within themselves, while looking at you).  ...

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soft is the new hard

Posted by on Feb 9, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

soft is the new hard

  “What is something that’s grown in your life that has surprised you?” That was the question that reminded me of the girl I used to identify with…   I definitely used to think that I was cool.  I spent hours on my nails and hair just to give out the appropriate amount of attitude when people looked at me.  I had my Black girl serious-face down, you know the one.  The poked out lip, raised eyebrow, ain’t no way I’m smilin’ face; yeah, that was me. It’s beyond ironic that I now rock the head with no hair and a smiling face.  I went from hard to soft and never looked back.  (Ok fine, I was never all that hard.  I never did jail time or even detention, but compared to now, I was stone cold.)  My “business” cards of today even say, “Breathe my love.”  There’s no way that cool girl I used to be would have anything to do with me now. Who’s to say she was even cool anyway?  Just because she thought that attitude and tight hair (and by tight, I mean “good looking”) were cool, doesn’t mean it was true.  She was just going along with it, bobbing her head to the hip hop track with a nice beat and a shady line here and there.  She was just repeating what she was seeing and agreeing with what had been decided for her.  Somehow she thought all that conditioning meant that she was cool; boy did that hurt. What?  Thinking that I was cool hurt?  Oh, hell yeah it hurt.  I didn’t even get followed around by paparazzi and I thought I had an image to uphold!  I thought I had to hold onto to the cool points acquired over the years and be careful not to lose any by being careless!  You never know who’s judging you behind your back and spreading the news like wild fire and then BAM, cool points drop.  Quick, quick, reposition the judgment and sell the news that your cool points have been reestablished.  Whew, until the next time.  Sleeping with one eye open, it’s the price of maintaining the illusion. Thankfully, I let that crazy girl go.  She was getting in my way with all that high maintenance.  Sure, she meant well.  She never wanted to hurt anyone or get in anyone’s way; it’s just that she did.  But because she was cool, when she realized that she was getting in my way, she dipped out. I wasn’t mad.  I could see that she had to go for both of us.  She was tired of the lie she was living and we both could see that she was never going to be able to experience the Real Me. The Real Me has nothing to do with feeling separate and incomplete.  It has no needs or wants and It definitely has no high maintenance requirements.  The Real Me is Complete Perfection, which just so happens to feel like sweet, soft, wonderful, Love. When I let go of the girl that thought she was all the noise in her head, my Life began.  For the first time, I could see the world of illusion and the world of Reality and I realized that living in both worlds simply is not possible. Staring at both pain...

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“Why do good people suffer?” she asked.

Posted by on Jan 5, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

“Why do good people suffer?” she asked.

  One of my cousins is attending a Christian discipleship program and she sent out a message saying that she had to ask people this question for a school paper.  This is my response. (Please note that the Biblical references added here are for her because they speak in a language that she is used to.  If Christianity is not your thing, however, by all means, skip over it.  The point has nothing to do with religion and only to do with experiencing Bliss.)   Why do good people suffer? Before being able to answer that question it’s important to recognize that the question is leading and assumptive, which means, to answer that question would be to presume and assume a few things that just aren’t true. As you know, God is all there Truly is; everything else is an illusion of the mind.  So, if the mind is thinking it, it isn’t True.  Sure, the mind may think its thoughts are true and those thoughts may even seem true, in relativity (the world according to the mind, the world of separate things “relating” to each other, the world of conditioned mental concepts), but all that thinking has nothing to do with the Absolute (the World of God ItSelf, the World of Oneness, the World which has nothing to do with the relative world – “My kingdom is not of this world.” John 18:36). The question, “Why do good people suffer,” is loaded with mental concepts that may seem true in relativity, but don’t stand a chance in the Absolute.  None of this matters if you are interested in theoretical discourse.  If you are interested in talking about thoughts, then this is a perfect question for that.  If, however, you are interested in experiencing the Peace that this question subtly alludes to, then it’s necessary to point out the ways in which this question blocks that from happening. “Why do good people suffer?” The primary misconception within this question is the concept of “people.”  “People” is a mental concept.  It is a learned thought about what the senses experience as a bunch of “separate things.”  Believing in this one fallacy is the single source of any and all seeming pain. “If I bear witness of myself, my witness is not true.”  (John 5:31) “I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit, because apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5) “You shall have no other gods before me.”  (Exodus 20:3) Mental concepts are false prophets.  Once you engage the first fallacy that you are separate from the vine, all other mental concepts take your attention further and further away from the Truth, which is that you simply are not separate from the vine or any of those other seemingly separate branches. Separation is the thing that thinks of concepts like “good” and “bad”, “right” and “wrong”.  Oneness knows only the glory that is Oneness. “Suffering” is the experience in a false sense of separation.  It appears to be happening all over the place.  “Suffering” appears to be happening to seemingly “good people” and seemingly “bad people” alike.  “People” seem to “suffer” only because of a false sense of separation from the Vine. None of that separation and suffering...

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