Perfection is at hand.

Posted on Jun 6, 2014 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Perfection is at hand.

                The mind has plans.  It wants things.  It worries about things.  It tries to prepare for things. (I Am not the mind or its thoughts.)   All of that mental thinking is tiring and stressful. (That seeming stress has nothing to do with the actual Me.)   Finishing the mind’s plans is not the answer. (Those plans are of a conditioned mind.  That mind was conditioned to think it needed plans.  I Am not the mind, its conditioning, or its plans.  I Am the Perfection.)   Getting what the mind thinks it wants is not the answer. (The mind only thinks it wants what it wants because it has been conditioned to believe that.  There is nothing to want as Perfection, because all is Here, Now.)   Affirming that everything is going to be ok is not the answer. (Everything already Is.  There is no future moment at all.  There is only this moment.  Breathe, relax, all is well right now.  If the mind thinks otherwise, let it.  The mind and its thinking have nothing to do with what I Am.)   Preparing is not the answer. (What would a mind possibly prepare for when everything is already Here?)   …   Feel this softness, this wonderfully relaxing calm that is Present as i dis-identify with a mind and allow Grace.   “i” knows nothing.  “i” is nothing.  Grace Is.   Every seeming thing is free to be itself, whatever it is; Perfection is at hand.  ...

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the thing that thinks it needs to be saved is not You.

Posted on Jul 20, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

the thing that thinks it needs to be saved is not You.

I was talking with a friend today who felt stuck.  She felt challenged by the excess weight on her body, the stress it was causing on her legs and knee, and the overwhelming feeling of needing to be saved. She went on for a while talking about feeling burdened by a past – a violent household growing up, a father who touched her inappropriately, and her attempts at making it all go away with a peanut butter sandwich in the night or the crunch of corn chips to silence the background yelling. “What do I do?” she asked. “Recognize that the thing that feels those feelings is not You.” I replied. That silenced the mind for a minute.  She closed her eyes and rubbed her heart.  She smiled, “That feels different.  That feels nice.”  … It feels nice to Realize that the thing that feels all messed up and troubled is not You because that messed up feeling has nothing to do with You, the Real You.  The Real You is Complete Perfection and Complete Perfection feels nice.  Identifying with the mind and all of its seeming suffering is the one and only great seeming pain.  Sure, it may seem like the suffering is caused by the violent childhood and the inappropriate touches, undoubtedly those experiences can contribute to the suffering feeling, but those feelings are feelings layered up on top of the already painful feeling of feeling separate from the Complete Perfection, the One Love, the Peace. Imagine cutting a flower from its stem.  It does not immediately show signs of dying when it is first separated from the stem.  It appears vibrant and fragrant at first.  Then, as time passes, a petal falls, the flowers wilts, and it eventually shows all signs of death.  The flower did not die days after having been cut.  The flower died the moment that it was cut from the stem; it’s just that it did not appear to die until days later.  This is similar to how life experience works.  The moment the attention shifts from Perfection to the mind, is the moment that the pain feeling occurs.  One moment You are experiencing the Bliss of Perfection as You, and the next moment, as the attention moves to the mind and its conditioned mental concepts, the thing that thinks it is “you” experiences the feeling of separation, of feeling separate, alone, wanting, and needing.  Those feelings are not You or yours.  Those feelings are of a mind.  Stay with those lost feelings, add on some violent life experience, and some molestation, and the thing that thinks it is you feels all messed up.  Stay with Perfection, as Perfection, and feel only Love.  But what about the abuse?  What about the addiction?  What about the pain?  How do I break out of it?  How do I feel only Love? When you hear “yourself” saying things like the following: “I am addicted to….” “I need to….. “My problem is…” “I like things to be a certain way…”   Pause.   Say, “The thing that feels addicted to ______, is not me.” “The thing that feels the need to _______, is not me.” “The thing that feels there is a problem is not me.” “The thing that thinks it likes things to be a certain way is not me.”   Overtime, the space from feeling like you are the thing thinking all those thoughts will break the addiction.  Then, without feeling addicted to the mind and its noise You are able to be with each of the mind’s mental concepts in such a way...

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Yoga Is what Love Is, there is no separation.

Posted on May 12, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, traps | 0 comments

Yoga Is what Love Is, there is no separation.

I taught a yoga class yesterday for the first time in a long while and it is still wonderful.  The movement is fun and the stretching is nice but it is the Yoga that is truly wonderful. When I was first introduced to yoga over 12 years ago, I was told that “yoga” meant “union” – union with the True Self, which was advertised as a very peaceful state.  Twelve years ago, when I wasn’t feeling very peaceful, union sounded good.  (Now I see how “union” is a trap, but I’ll get to that.) For years, I studied the history of yoga, learned the series of poses, learned the Sanskrit names of poses, ate a vegetarian diet, wore all white when required, chanted, retreated, sat for hours, held my arms over my head for 62 minutes at a time – you name it, I tried it, “yogic-ly” speaking. My body definitely got stronger and more flexible throughout that time.  My mind even became more disciplined and knowledgeable.  I did not, however, experience any real increase in overall peace until years later (and the truly peaceful experience had nothing to do with “yoga”). Sure, there were euphoric moments along the yogic journey, but that was because of breath manipulation, not because of the Realization of Oneness.  There were increased feelings of openness and adaptability, but not Bliss – not until years later. Years after doing everything that I had been taught to do by yoga teachers and yoga “masters”, I was still easily upset, still bothered by a world I thought was real, still feeling very separate from every-seeming-thing and every-seeming-one, including the True Self. The reason that “yoga” did not help me experience true Peace was simply because I thought that I was separate from the thing that I was trying to unify with.  I thought I was the mind and all of its thinking.  I thought I was the thoughts and the beliefs.  I thought that I needed to become something instead of Realize that I already Am what the mind was seeking. When I finally Realized that yoga was not working as a means to experiencing True Peace, I let go of it.  At the time, letting go of yoga felt like a hard break-up; I did not want to let it go but it was so obviously not working.  It seemed that my whole life had become all things yoga.  My friends, my social-scene, the food I ate, the clothes I wore, the music I listened to – everything in my life at the time had something to do with a very commercial idea of yoga, so letting go of yoga felt like letting go of “me”. It was definitely worth releasing.  I felt so discontent with life at the time, particularly after having spent years doing things I thought would eventually lead to Peace.  I was willing to try anything, even if that included letting go of what I thought I was. Once the mental concepts of “yoga” cleared, I was able to experience the Emptiness, the actual Yoga.  I had read about the Emptiness but I only experienced the Emptiness when I was no longer trying to understand It, or get to It. From Emptiness, everything is clear.  There is no separation.  There is only this Everything-ness and Nothing-ness that is Peace.  There is no need for a concept like “union” because there is nothing to unify with; I already Am. I released the concept of yoga years ago and now let the experience of a yoga class be whatever it is.  I no...

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i surrender

Posted on Feb 15, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, traps | 0 comments

i surrender

A number of years ago, “my” mind thought it wanted things on its birthday.  It thought that there should be cake and presents, a day at the spa and dinner reservations.  When it didn’t get those things for the first time ever in its life experience, it got upset. The mind thought that being upset might help it get what it wanted, which was to be treated like it was special and deserved a special day of special gifts and special treatment.  When being upset didn’t help the mind get what it wanted for the first time ever in its life experience, it got even more upset and when that didn’t work, the mind eventually was left without options for how to behave so it quieted and calmed down. In the space without the mind acting all childlike for attention, I could clearly see what was happening.  I could see that the mind was simply expressing its conditioning.  It was acting out in the ways it had been taught to act by patterns.  It had been given cake and presents every year since it was one.  It had learned to feel upset when it didn’t get what it thought it wanted. Through repetition, the mind picked up patterns and it was simply looking for those patterns to continue.  There was nothing more than that happening.  Because the mind was simply trippin’ over not getting a pattern fulfilled there was nothing to do externally in order to feel right again.  Basically, getting cake or getting presents, a day at the spa or dinner reservations was not the answer to feeling right again.  The answer to feeling right was/is clearing the patterns and experiencing the perfection of life without patterns. During that particular pattern interruption, I realized that I was being treated wonderfully by a wonderfully loving man every single day.  I ate cake whenever I felt like eating cake and I actually went to the spa a lot during that time (there was a great spot in LA where I could soak, steam, sip tea, and relax for $15 a day!).  I was realizing that the mind was trippin’ over patterns but the mind and its patterns had nothing to do with Me.  I was not, and am not, the mind and its patterns.  I am the Empty Mind, the Peace, the Perfection, the Love Itself. So instead of getting what the mind thought it wanted that year, it got what it needed – humility. Today, as every day, i surrender.  i let go of all false-sense of separation.  i let everything be itself, however that is.  i know nothing.  i am nothing.  i is an illusion; it is free. Love is Here in the Emptiness. i happily surrender.  ...

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Happy New Year now, in every moment.

Posted on Jan 1, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

Happy New Year now, in every moment.

You can set an intention for this “new year” all you want, but the truth is, you’re going to do the same things you’ve always done as long as you think you are the thing that has to set intentions. Well that’s kind of a downer.  Wouldn’t it sound nicer if I said, “This is IT! This is the year that all your dreams will come true!”?  Sure, that might sound nicer, but it isn’t very nice to lie to you that way.  There are plenty of people and businesses telling you those lies in an effort to keep you paying, buying in, and going along, so I definitely don’t need to join in all that mess.  If you think you need to be cheerleaded into a new year of hope, then by all means, get pumped, but look back on the years, has it ever really, truly, worked? If you think all that cheerleading has really, truly, worked for you, then proceed.  This post is for the folks who realize the futility in hope and are ready for Bliss, now.   To experience Bliss now, a few things happen.   You Realize that You are NOT the thing that thinks.  You are not the self that wants, the body that craves, or the person who hopes.  You are the living Perfection, the Oneness, the Love ItSelf.   And just how do you experience this Perfection that You are? First, by being still.  Observe the mental thoughts without engaging them.  Experience the space from the mind’s thoughts so that You can see the mind and its patterns without feeling like you are the mind.  Relax, everything is already Complete.  (It is only the mind that thinks otherwise, and you are not the mind.)  One by one, a mental concept relaxes, loosens its seeming grip, and eventually lets go.  The mental concept dissolves into the Nothing.  You feel more and more expansive as more and more mental concepts clear.  This spaciousness is You, the Real You.   With a clear mind, a mind free of conditioned mental concepts, there is no want, no craving, no hope because there is no sense of separation.  There is only the Perfection of Oneness.  The body moves and experiences a World but it is no longer a world of not enough, It is a world of Complete Harmony.  This Is Home and this Home Is You.   The mind cannot intend this kind of Freedom because the mind can only intend what it has been conditioned to intend.  The mind has no way of imagining the Perfection that exists in its absence. When you are truly ready for Freedom, there is no need for intention, no need to get pumped, and no need for cheerleading.  When you are ready for Freedom, Freedom is the only thing of interest to you and It reveals the Way.   All is truly Well.   Love already Is. Peace is right Here.      Happy New Year now, in every moment.  ...

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feeling bothered is a trap (when you don’t engage it, you don’t feel bothered).

Posted on Nov 16, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, traps | 0 comments

feeling bothered is a trap (when you don’t engage it, you don’t feel bothered).

You can’t trust feeling bothered because that feeling will tell you that the reason you are feeling bothered is because of what you are looking at (what you are thinking about), which is not true. This is why feeling bothered is a trap; it will try to get you to engage the mind when the answer it seeks is not of the mind. Feeling bothered will then have you try to get some thing or some one to change, while feeling bothered until something changes (and then continuing to feel bothered by something else). Instead of participating in that endless cycle of feeling bothered, recognize that the bothered feeling is simply an indication of not feeling right inside, and not feeling right inside is an indication of identifying with the mind and its mental concepts.  (The True Self doesn’t ever feel bothered.  It only feels the Perfection of ItSelf.)   If you feel like you need to test this out, try this: Imagine something that you feel bothered by. Now imagine not feeling bothered by it.   Which one feels better, more like You?   Notice that nothing “in the world” changed while you imagined both scenarios and yet you experienced a feeling change.   The mind’s likely conclusion from that example is to “be the change it seeks.”  (That conclusion is also a trap because the thing that feels like something needs to change is not You, is not Real, and will never be able to experience the Peace that You truly Are.) What this exercise is pointing out is that the bothered feeling is “relative”.  It is dependent on mental conditions.  If you don’t identify with those mental conditions, if you don’t treat them like they are real, or you, or yours, then they lose their seeming weight.   As your attention leaves the “relative” and rests as the Absolute, you can no longer even remember what feeling bothered felt like, because You are now experiencing the Sweet, Complete, Unbotherable, Bliss that is You.                ...

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the thing about gratitude…

Posted on Nov 4, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, traps | 0 comments

the thing about gratitude…

i used to do a gratitude practice of acknowledging things i was grateful for so that i could feel “good” and have more “good” in my life.* It seemed to work for a while.  i mentally gave thanks for my friends and family, for wholesome food, for a warm home, etc., and i continued to experience the same friends and family, food, and home as i always had.** Then, one day I looked out into a forest of trees.  i was about to feel grateful for being there with those trees when I Realized that gratitude is separation and separation is not where feeling Good and experiencing Good really Is.*** Separation is a mind-made concept that sees and experiences itself and the world around it as separate: you, me, he, she, it, they, others, etc.  Those identifications are ways that a mind has been conditioned to see and experience a world. That one bit of misinformation, however, is the cause of all seeming pain.  Separation is the feeling that makes a mind think it should be grateful and think it should focus on ways to get more to be grateful for. None of that is true.  Separation is not True. I Am not separate from the One Great Love;  I Am the One Great Love ItSelf. There is nothing to be grateful for because there is nothing else.  There is no other.  There is only Love, only Perfection.  Be this that I Am and Experience unending Bliss.     (Until you are ready for Bliss, a gratitude practice may help some false, separate, sense of you temporarily feel better.  So by all means, carry on if “you” feel like carrying on.  When you are done with separation and a perpetual want for more, Love is Here, no “practices” necessary.)       *(The mind that “i” used to identify with did a gratitude practice of acknowledging things it had been conditioned to believe were good.  The mind, feeling separate, felt incomplete.  Therefore, it felt like it needed more of what it had been conditioned to want.) **(At the time, the mind was looking to a separate, material world for a way to feel right inside.  The mind thought that by acknowledging what it had been conditioned to believe as “good”, it would experience more “good”.  That idea does work.  It’s just that “good” is based on what a mind has been taught to be good which has nothing at all to do with actual Good.) ***(Good, of course, is God/Love/Presence/Oneness.)  ...

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abandoned/abused/neglected: those patterns are not “yours”. (You are Free.)

Posted on Oct 31, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

abandoned/abused/neglected: those patterns are not “yours”.  (You are Free.)

I know a lot of people who feel sadness over the absence, abuse, or neglect of a parent.  I see how stifling that pain can be.  It is hard to get out of bed in the morning, hard to get motivated to do anything, hard to not see the world as a dark, messed-up, unloving place.  (If that feels like you at times, stay with me through this blog.  By the end, I will show you how to feel the love that you might think is missing.) It does not matter how long ago the painful experience occurred.  To the mind that identifies with that pain-pattern, that pain might as well be happening right now because that is how it feels.  The pain feels alive and real (even though the painful experience is not actually happening right now). There is nothing personal about the pain-pattern.  It does not happen because you are good or bad, lucky or unlucky.  The pain-pattern happens simply because the mind is trained by repetition.  Repetition establishes patterns, seeks those patters until it finds them, and then continues the cycle.  It does not matter how seemingly good or seemingly bad a pattern seems.  To the mind, a pattern is a pattern, nothing more, nothing less. That is how an abused child tends to become an abused adult.  The abuse might not always look the same, but the feeling of being abused is the same to the mind. For example, if a woman was molested as a child, she will find herself in relationships where she “feels” molested.  Feeling molested might look different from when she was a child.  It might look like being taken advantage of, or being unsupported, or being raped, or anything that feels the way molestation felt to the mind however long ago.  Of course the adult woman might not “want” to feel molested repeatedly, it’s just that feeling molested is all the woman can do as long as she identifies with that mental pattern. That pain-pattern is also how a man who was raised without a father tends to become an abandoned adult.  That “abandonment” might not always look the same, but the feeling of being abandoned is the same to the mind. For example, if a man was raised without a father, he will find himself in relationships where he feels abandoned.  Feeling abandoned might look different from when he was a child.  It might look like a lifetime of breakups, or a lifetime of loneliness, or an eating disorder, or anything that feels the way abandonment felt to the mind however long ago.  Of course the adult man might not “want” to feel abandoned repeatedly, it’s just that feeling abandoned is all the man can do as long as he identifies with that mental pattern.   What can the abused woman and abandoned man do about it?   When they are ready to clear the pattern, the pattern clears.  In order to be ready to clear the pattern, they must be more interested in experiencing true Peace than they are placing blame, getting vindicated, or anything else involving “someone else”.  This process is about them experiencing True Peace.  The clarity of what to do about anything/anyone else (if there is anything at all to do) comes only in Peace.  Peace knows exactly what to do all the time. If the molested woman and abandoned man try to “deal” with the seeming problem while feeling victimized, they will just keep participating in the mental pattern and just keep recreating a painful experience.  (In this example, I mean “deal” as in...

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