Do “you” ever feel like things are messy?

Posted on Oct 27, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

Do “you” ever feel like things are messy?

The Real You doesn’t ever feel like things are messy, of course, but if you are not experiencing the Real You then things might sometimes feel messy (even though they never truly are). This morning I woke up and discovered that the balsamic vinegar bottle was tipped upside down and leaking in the food storage bin.  What a mess, balsamic vinegar everywhere!  It was saturating the storage containers, dripping from the salt and pepper, and stain-streaking the bulk supply of zip lock bags. At that moment, it felt like too much to deal with so I left it all messy and stank.  I sat, drank some protein greens, and eventually showered.  By the time I came back from the shower the balsamic vinegar mess didn’t feel like a big deal at all.  I got down on the floor, took everything out, cleaned the bin, and then cleaned everything balsamic-stained. When I realized that I needed to wipe down each and every zip lock bag, I realized that the process was/is like releasing mental concepts.  Here’s how it went for cleaning the bags: As I began, I did not feel like I was the vinegar being wiped away.  I did not feel sad to see it go or happy that it was clearing.  I was simply a neutral, peaceful-feeling cleaner, cleaning. While I wiped, I paid attention to each and every drop of vinegar and wiped each one clean.  (I did not try to multi-task; I did not try to release mental concepts while cleaning vinegar from the bags, for example.  Multi-tasking does not allow me to pay the kind of attention that is necessary for thoroughly cleaning each bag, nor does multi-tasking allow for the kind of attention that is necessary while concepts release.  So instead of multi-tasking, I paid attention to what was happening while it was happening.) I did not impatiently wipe the whole bunch of bags at once because that would inevitably leave some bags stained and the whole bunch slightly sticky with a vinegar-esque quality. I set up some paper towels, grabbed one bag at a time, and wiped.  Then I wiped the next one, and the next one, and the next one, until every bag was clean. Once each bag was wiped, each bag was as good as new.  (It would have been a waste to throw away all those bags because underneath all that smelly vinegar, the bags were in perfect condition.) Here’s how it goes for releasing mental concepts: To begin, Realize that You are not the concepts being cleared.  You are simply the neutral, Peaceful, Presence, Being Peace while concepts release.  While releasing concepts, pay attention to each concept while it is being released.  (Trying to multi-task, trying to clean the house while trying to release concepts, for example, does not allow concepts the kind of attention necessary to fully release.  Instead, pay undivided attention to each concept while it is releasing.) Patiently, Loving, tend to one concept at a time.  Trying to release multiple concepts at once may make things seem “clearer”, but that process does not entirely Clear a concept.  (If the process feels impatient, stop “trying”.  Release happens easily and patiently when it is time.) Be with one concept.  Feel the Love and Peace of Being what Is while mentally observing the concept dissolve.  Talk the concept through if it is helpful, “You are free to be what you are, whatever that is, however that is.  You are no longer a mental possession.  You are free.”  Wait.  Mentally observe the concept soften, relax, and let go.  Wait until it is...

Read More

Why clearing the mind Is the answer

Posted on Oct 18, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 2 comments

Why clearing the mind Is the answer

Clearing the mind is the Absolute answer. Changing the mind is the “relative” answer.   The Absolute experiences the absolution of ItSelf, which is Perfection. The “relative” experiences the relativity of “separates” (a life experience separate from the True Self, separate from “others”, separate from “things”), which feels like stress.   The Absolute ONLY experiences the Perfection whereas the “relative” ONLY experiences the seeming stress (seeming because the relative experience is an illusory experience despite how real it may sometimes feel).   How is the Absolute Perfection experienced? In an empty mind; a mind free of a sense of separation, free of conditioned mental concepts, free of beliefs.   How is relative stress experienced? In identification with a mind, in identification with separation, conditioned mental concepts, and beliefs.   When you are ready to let go of a separate, false-sense of “me” then the answer is in the Emptiness. If you are more interested in improving relative conditions then the answer will appear to be in relativity.  Relativity will never, ever, ever, lead you to experience the peace it seeks, however, simply because Peace is not in relativity.  Peace IS the Absolute.   Mentally “knowing” this is not enough to experience It.  (Intellectualizing is not the same as Experiencing.) So, now the mind might “know” that it is an illusion.  It might also “know” that the ultimate answer is experienced when the mind is clear of all that “knowing”.  Now what? Now, if you are interested in not knowing, you sit.  You wait.  You notice the mind’s patterns and you do not engage.   A mental concept shows up and you see where it came from, you see how it developed, how it came to be such a seemingly normal thing to experience.  The concept is simply a learned condition, a learned behavior, a learned belief; it is not a Real thing. While You observe the mental concept, You realize that the concept has nothing to do with You at all.  It is simply acting out its learned behavior while You watch. With space from what used to feel like “you” and “yours” it is easy to not feel bothered by whatever comes up because there is space between You and what the mind thinks “you” is.  Things that used to offend you no longer do because You realize that the one feeling offended is not You.  The pressure is gone in This space.  You are simply noticing the mind and its conditioning, that’s all. There is nothing scary happening here.  Anything that initially seems scary seems scary because it has been conditioned to be thought of that way.  Wait, the seeming scariness will pass also.  It is just as unreal as everything else of the mind. Eventually, all of the mind’s noise settles and dissolves.  The past is clear.  Now is free to be experienced as it truly Is. Perfection is at hand. Love is Here. You (the Real, Absolute, You) Are the living Answer.      ...

Read More

Why changing the mind is not the answer

Posted on Sep 25, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Why changing the mind is not the answer

Changing the mind seems like a perfectly good answer when things don’t feel right. “Look on the bright side.” “Think more positively.” “Get a better job.” The only problem with changing the mind is that it doesn’t actually solve the problem of not feeling right because not feeling right has nothing to do with what the mind is paying attention to; it has only to do with feeling separate from the True Self, from every”one”, and from every”thing”. When I woke up early this morning with the feeling that something needed to change, I knew it was time to clear the mind again. As soon as I noticed that a concept had the mind’s attention, I tried to release it , but it wouldn’t budge.  I’ve realized that releasing cannot be forced so instead of trying to force it, I got up, got a snack, and watched the darkness clear as the sun rose. I sat and watched the early morning darkness fade.  As the darkness cleared, the feeling that something needed to change also cleared; I felt Oneness again. Instead of trying to get what the mind thought it wanted or needed, instead of trying to get someone or something to change, I patiently, lovingly, waited for the mind to clear (and it did, as it does, when I am ready). how do i clear the mind?     Is clearing the mind really necessary? Wouldn’t things have gotten better if he ______, or she _________? What if ___________ improved, or ___________ simply went away? Things would surely be better then, right?   Well, you can answer those questions based on your life experiences.  Chances are, better seems better.   What I am talking about is when “better” is no longer enough.   There comes a moment when you realize, “i got what i thought i wanted.  Things are better, but i still don’t feel quite right.” When you get to that point, the answer is not: changing the mind; the answer is: clearing the mind. *If you are not yet at that point, then you will likely find this blog to be rubbish.  Here’s what you can do when clearing the mind sounds crazy: proceed with life as usual    ...

Read More

Love and a fuchsia bucket

Posted on Sep 2, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Love and a fuchsia bucket

I was peeing outside in a bucket this morning when I had the feeling, “peeing in a bucket is pretty great.”  In my recent experience, it’s better to pee in a clean bucket than it is to pee squatting over dry, pebble covered soil, and nettle leaves.  With a bucket, there’s no splash back on the ankles, no having to move my foot so that I don’t accidentally pee on it, and no wonder if I’m getting too close to that stinging nettle! I’ve been peeing in this bucket (which is really a fuchsia pitcher) for nearly three months now.  Back in May, Evan and I bought a teardrop trailer to tow behind our Scion TC and travel to nowhere in particular with no timeline at all.  So, that’s what we’ve been doing. A quick tour of our ‘little guy’ (that’s actually what it’s called): Inside: king-sized mattress, blankets, pillows, overhead cabinet with clothes. Outside on the front platform: storage bins containing kitchen gadgets, extra boots and jackets, camping gear. That’s it; that’s why I’ve been peeing in a bucket.  At first, peeing in a bucket seemed weird, but that’s just because I had been used to peeing in a toilet in a very clean house.  Now, peeing in a bucket is no big deal, it’s actually really, really relieving, quick, and easy.   What in the world does all this pee talk possibly have to do with emptying the mind of concepts?  Well, having traveled through many towns, I’ve noticed how differently people experience life and how insignificant those differences are when it comes to Love.  Some people live in cities packed with people, stores, cars, and lights while others live tucked away in trees without a store for miles, tractors on the road, and only the stars as night-time light.  Some people live in extravagant homes while others live on streets, in parks, and under bridges along the river.  Love is Love.  It does not recognize the “particulars” of a material world, It only recognizes ItSelf: Love.  (It does not recognize a right or wrong way to use a fuchsia bucket, for example). When the mind is clear, it is no longer thinking about what it thinks things should or should not be because it no longer possesses concepts to think about.  Without mental concepts, Love is all there is to see and experience. It does not matter where I am or what I am doing, Love is all there Is.  This morning, I just so happened to be sitting on a fuchsia bucket, with the sun rising over the trees, and cows mooing down by the pond.  I was smiling, “I’m peeing outside on a bucket.”   (Just in case the subtleties in this blog were too subtle, this blog is not really about a fuchsia bucket.  It’s about Love.  The “particulars” do not matter; only Love...

Read More

Be the Creek

Posted on Mar 15, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

Be the Creek

The creek has no intention, no ambition, no plan.  The creek does not intend to flow downstream, it does not strive to nourish land, it does not plan to supply water.  Those things happen simply while the creek is being itself. The “purpose” then, is to not “have” a “purpose” (a mental idea of what i should or should not do) but to let go of all concepts and live as the Creek, live as the True Self. As the True Self, I have no intention, no ambition, no plan.  The True Self does not intend to Be everywhere, It does not strive to “help others” (as the mind perceives it), it does not plan to supply anything.  Those things simply happen while the True Self is Being...

Read More

Is it the mind, or is it Me? Tips to tell the difference…

Posted on Mar 1, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 2 comments

Is it the mind, or is it Me?  Tips to tell the difference…

The first tip that lets you know if what you are hearing is the mind or the True Self, is that the True Self does not wonder; It already Is.  So, “Is it the mind, or is it Me?” is a question that the mind asks.  (The True Self is always experiencing ItSelf as Complete Perfection so it obviously doesn’t have to ask.) There are other tips though, some more subtle than others.  We’ll start with a few obvious ones.  When you hear these things being said, it’s definitely the mind talking.     “I’m the kind of person…” “I know how I am…” “This is my truth.” “Those are my beliefs.” “I tend to…” “I am _________ (insert a condition, for example, good, bad, smart, stupid, …).” Wait, what? But… Yeah, that’s the mind talking, not You. How can that be? Well, just “think” about all the “thoughts” that follow each of those statements. Are any of those statements Absolute? “I’m the kind of person…”  (Have you always been the kind of person, will you always be the kind of person, are you really even a person?)   “I know how I am…” (Really? How can you tell if it’s You or if it’s simply “your” conditioning?)   “This is my truth.”  (Who is this “my” and how did it come to accept “truth”?)   “Those are my beliefs.” (Where did those beliefs come from and how does it feel to possess them? How does it feel to have them challenged?”)   “I tend to…” (How did the pattern start? Will it continue?)   “I am _________ (insert a condition, for example, good, bad, smart, stupid, …).”  (Are you?) Well, that should thoroughly confuse the mind. The point is, if it isn’t Absolute, it isn’t You. Don’t take my word for it, of course.  If you’re curious, just spend some time with all that mental noise and see what happens.  Hang out with the answers that the mind comes up with, and if you’re feelin’ frisky, let all those answers go and then see what...

Read More

loving evie, loving Love

Posted on Feb 17, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 0 comments

loving evie, loving Love

I don’t really do much every day.  I go to the gym, drink lots of water, pick up some groceries, prepare meals, and do the dishes.  So it’s not really the doing that stands out so much in my day as it is the loving. I simply love to love.  It’s really the only thing that truly interests me.  Sure, sometimes working out interests me, and discovering a new wholesome food interests me, but those things ebb and flow.  The love is a steady thing. This morning, like most mornings, Evie (pronounced Ev-ee, sweet for Evan) woke up briefly, came and found me in the other room (I tend to wake up a little earlier than him, drink my morning greens, and sit in the den), rubbed his sleepy, half-open eyes and reached his arms out for a hug. I smiled at the sight of him, as I always do.  He is just sooooo precious!  We hugged.  I kissed his sleepy face, walked with him back to the bed, and tucked him in for sleepy time take two. Now, if you see this guy on the basketball court you might not have any idea that he’s such a big softie.  He’s all hard-core on his defense and he loooooves to talk trash.  I see him at the gym head nodding what’s up with his full-court friends, a low five here and there, and a laugh.  I smile; I got it bad. A few weeks ago Evie came home from the gym with a busted up brow.  He took a hit from an elbow while playing basketball and by the time I saw him, his face was pale, his eyebrow was all bloody and not entirely in place.  Eww.  I drove him to the urgent care, 15 stitches. I remember driving him to the urgent care that day and feeling so wonderfully happy about being able to be with him at that moment.  It felt so wonderful to love him and care for him, to be home when he came home, to drop everything to drive him, to wait with him at the Doctor’s office, drive him home, and tuck him in for rest. It’s like this all the time – simple days, lots of love. As I feel all this love for him, I release him.  (It’s not some separate form of a man that I truly love anyway, it’s the Love that He IS that I Love, which is the same Love that I Am.)  I release all ideas about “him”.  I release all ideas about “us”.  I release all ideas about “me”.   He is free to be himself, however that is.  I am free to be “my” self, however that is.  I let go.   …   Letting go feels so good.  It feels good to love the man “evie”, but it feels even more amazing to love the Love that Evie IS by Being the Love that I Am. I look around and see Love everywhere.  I feel it when I look at the rug, at the pillow, at the cup of water on the table.  I feel it just sitting here, typing, breathing, resting… Love Loves Love. i let go.  ...

Read More

Hallmark, you’re killin’ me.

Posted on Feb 14, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You | 2 comments

Hallmark, you’re killin’ me.

  Hallmark has a “valentine’s day” ad running that goes something like this: “Tell me I’m beautiful.  Tell me we’ll grow old together.  Tell me that I’m still the one.  Tell me that you need me.  Tell me you’ll never let me go.  Tell me you miss me.  Tell me you love me, it’s all I want to hear.”   Ahhhhhhh, just writing that hurts.  Whew.  Ok.   I used to date a guy who acted like that (key words, “used to”).  It’s not even the slighted bit hot to engage the mind and its false sense of separation, insecurity, neediness, want, sadness, longing, etc.  It’s not hot, at all. That mess up there, that, “I need to hear the words” mess, is the mind talking.  The True Self has nothing to do with that. The True Self IS Love ItSelf.  It does not miss, long, ache, hope for, or want.  The True Self already IS Complete Perfection. So, yes, “valentine’s day” is just another mental concept to be released.  But, if you’re not going to release the concept and experience Love directly as your Self, then at least know that the one demanding to be told “stuff” is the mind and NOT the Real, Actual Person that already IS Love. Say the words, buy the chocolates, the flowers, the heart-shaped treats, and the bling, if you think you must.  Just know that when your “loved one” gets over the excitement of hearing or getting what he/she thinks he/she wants, there will be another need, want, demand.  It’s got nothing to do with you and only to do with the noise running around in the mind. And for the record, I have nothing against heart-shaped treats; they’re really kind of cute.  It’s just that I prefer my heart-shaped treats as what they are – fun, heart-shaped treats.  They are no substitute for Being the Love that I Am.  ...

Read More