the thing that thinks it needs to be saved is not You.

Posted on Jul 20, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

the thing that thinks it needs to be saved is not You.

I was talking with a friend today who felt stuck.  She felt challenged by the excess weight on her body, the stress it was causing on her legs and knee, and the overwhelming feeling of needing to be saved. She went on for a while talking about feeling burdened by a past – a violent household growing up, a father who touched her inappropriately, and her attempts at making it all go away with a peanut butter sandwich in the night or the crunch of corn chips to silence the background yelling. “What do I do?” she asked. “Recognize that the thing that feels those feelings is not You.” I replied. That silenced the mind for a minute.  She closed her eyes and rubbed her heart.  She smiled, “That feels different.  That feels nice.”  … It feels nice to Realize that the thing that feels all messed up and troubled is not You because that messed up feeling has nothing to do with You, the Real You.  The Real You is Complete Perfection and Complete Perfection feels nice.  Identifying with the mind and all of its seeming suffering is the one and only great seeming pain.  Sure, it may seem like the suffering is caused by the violent childhood and the inappropriate touches, undoubtedly those experiences can contribute to the suffering feeling, but those feelings are feelings layered up on top of the already painful feeling of feeling separate from the Complete Perfection, the One Love, the Peace. Imagine cutting a flower from its stem.  It does not immediately show signs of dying when it is first separated from the stem.  It appears vibrant and fragrant at first.  Then, as time passes, a petal falls, the flowers wilts, and it eventually shows all signs of death.  The flower did not die days after having been cut.  The flower died the moment that it was cut from the stem; it’s just that it did not appear to die until days later.  This is similar to how life experience works.  The moment the attention shifts from Perfection to the mind, is the moment that the pain feeling occurs.  One moment You are experiencing the Bliss of Perfection as You, and the next moment, as the attention moves to the mind and its conditioned mental concepts, the thing that thinks it is “you” experiences the feeling of separation, of feeling separate, alone, wanting, and needing.  Those feelings are not You or yours.  Those feelings are of a mind.  Stay with those lost feelings, add on some violent life experience, and some molestation, and the thing that thinks it is you feels all messed up.  Stay with Perfection, as Perfection, and feel only Love.  But what about the abuse?  What about the addiction?  What about the pain?  How do I break out of it?  How do I feel only Love? When you hear “yourself” saying things like the following: “I am addicted to….” “I need to….. “My problem is…” “I like things to be a certain way…”   Pause.   Say, “The thing that feels addicted to ______, is not me.” “The thing that feels the need to _______, is not me.” “The thing that feels there is a problem is not me.” “The thing that thinks it likes things to be a certain way is not me.”   Overtime, the space from feeling like you are the thing thinking all those thoughts will break the addiction.  Then, without feeling addicted to the mind and its noise You are able to be with each of the mind’s mental concepts in such a way...

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Happy New Year now, in every moment.

Posted on Jan 1, 2013 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

Happy New Year now, in every moment.

You can set an intention for this “new year” all you want, but the truth is, you’re going to do the same things you’ve always done as long as you think you are the thing that has to set intentions. Well that’s kind of a downer.  Wouldn’t it sound nicer if I said, “This is IT! This is the year that all your dreams will come true!”?  Sure, that might sound nicer, but it isn’t very nice to lie to you that way.  There are plenty of people and businesses telling you those lies in an effort to keep you paying, buying in, and going along, so I definitely don’t need to join in all that mess.  If you think you need to be cheerleaded into a new year of hope, then by all means, get pumped, but look back on the years, has it ever really, truly, worked? If you think all that cheerleading has really, truly, worked for you, then proceed.  This post is for the folks who realize the futility in hope and are ready for Bliss, now.   To experience Bliss now, a few things happen.   You Realize that You are NOT the thing that thinks.  You are not the self that wants, the body that craves, or the person who hopes.  You are the living Perfection, the Oneness, the Love ItSelf.   And just how do you experience this Perfection that You are? First, by being still.  Observe the mental thoughts without engaging them.  Experience the space from the mind’s thoughts so that You can see the mind and its patterns without feeling like you are the mind.  Relax, everything is already Complete.  (It is only the mind that thinks otherwise, and you are not the mind.)  One by one, a mental concept relaxes, loosens its seeming grip, and eventually lets go.  The mental concept dissolves into the Nothing.  You feel more and more expansive as more and more mental concepts clear.  This spaciousness is You, the Real You.   With a clear mind, a mind free of conditioned mental concepts, there is no want, no craving, no hope because there is no sense of separation.  There is only the Perfection of Oneness.  The body moves and experiences a World but it is no longer a world of not enough, It is a world of Complete Harmony.  This Is Home and this Home Is You.   The mind cannot intend this kind of Freedom because the mind can only intend what it has been conditioned to intend.  The mind has no way of imagining the Perfection that exists in its absence. When you are truly ready for Freedom, there is no need for intention, no need to get pumped, and no need for cheerleading.  When you are ready for Freedom, Freedom is the only thing of interest to you and It reveals the Way.   All is truly Well.   Love already Is. Peace is right Here.      Happy New Year now, in every moment.  ...

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abandoned/abused/neglected: those patterns are not “yours”. (You are Free.)

Posted on Oct 31, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

abandoned/abused/neglected: those patterns are not “yours”.  (You are Free.)

I know a lot of people who feel sadness over the absence, abuse, or neglect of a parent.  I see how stifling that pain can be.  It is hard to get out of bed in the morning, hard to get motivated to do anything, hard to not see the world as a dark, messed-up, unloving place.  (If that feels like you at times, stay with me through this blog.  By the end, I will show you how to feel the love that you might think is missing.) It does not matter how long ago the painful experience occurred.  To the mind that identifies with that pain-pattern, that pain might as well be happening right now because that is how it feels.  The pain feels alive and real (even though the painful experience is not actually happening right now). There is nothing personal about the pain-pattern.  It does not happen because you are good or bad, lucky or unlucky.  The pain-pattern happens simply because the mind is trained by repetition.  Repetition establishes patterns, seeks those patters until it finds them, and then continues the cycle.  It does not matter how seemingly good or seemingly bad a pattern seems.  To the mind, a pattern is a pattern, nothing more, nothing less. That is how an abused child tends to become an abused adult.  The abuse might not always look the same, but the feeling of being abused is the same to the mind. For example, if a woman was molested as a child, she will find herself in relationships where she “feels” molested.  Feeling molested might look different from when she was a child.  It might look like being taken advantage of, or being unsupported, or being raped, or anything that feels the way molestation felt to the mind however long ago.  Of course the adult woman might not “want” to feel molested repeatedly, it’s just that feeling molested is all the woman can do as long as she identifies with that mental pattern. That pain-pattern is also how a man who was raised without a father tends to become an abandoned adult.  That “abandonment” might not always look the same, but the feeling of being abandoned is the same to the mind. For example, if a man was raised without a father, he will find himself in relationships where he feels abandoned.  Feeling abandoned might look different from when he was a child.  It might look like a lifetime of breakups, or a lifetime of loneliness, or an eating disorder, or anything that feels the way abandonment felt to the mind however long ago.  Of course the adult man might not “want” to feel abandoned repeatedly, it’s just that feeling abandoned is all the man can do as long as he identifies with that mental pattern.   What can the abused woman and abandoned man do about it?   When they are ready to clear the pattern, the pattern clears.  In order to be ready to clear the pattern, they must be more interested in experiencing true Peace than they are placing blame, getting vindicated, or anything else involving “someone else”.  This process is about them experiencing True Peace.  The clarity of what to do about anything/anyone else (if there is anything at all to do) comes only in Peace.  Peace knows exactly what to do all the time. If the molested woman and abandoned man try to “deal” with the seeming problem while feeling victimized, they will just keep participating in the mental pattern and just keep recreating a painful experience.  (In this example, I mean “deal” as in...

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Do “you” ever feel like things are messy?

Posted on Oct 27, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

Do “you” ever feel like things are messy?

The Real You doesn’t ever feel like things are messy, of course, but if you are not experiencing the Real You then things might sometimes feel messy (even though they never truly are). This morning I woke up and discovered that the balsamic vinegar bottle was tipped upside down and leaking in the food storage bin.  What a mess, balsamic vinegar everywhere!  It was saturating the storage containers, dripping from the salt and pepper, and stain-streaking the bulk supply of zip lock bags. At that moment, it felt like too much to deal with so I left it all messy and stank.  I sat, drank some protein greens, and eventually showered.  By the time I came back from the shower the balsamic vinegar mess didn’t feel like a big deal at all.  I got down on the floor, took everything out, cleaned the bin, and then cleaned everything balsamic-stained. When I realized that I needed to wipe down each and every zip lock bag, I realized that the process was/is like releasing mental concepts.  Here’s how it went for cleaning the bags: As I began, I did not feel like I was the vinegar being wiped away.  I did not feel sad to see it go or happy that it was clearing.  I was simply a neutral, peaceful-feeling cleaner, cleaning. While I wiped, I paid attention to each and every drop of vinegar and wiped each one clean.  (I did not try to multi-task; I did not try to release mental concepts while cleaning vinegar from the bags, for example.  Multi-tasking does not allow me to pay the kind of attention that is necessary for thoroughly cleaning each bag, nor does multi-tasking allow for the kind of attention that is necessary while concepts release.  So instead of multi-tasking, I paid attention to what was happening while it was happening.) I did not impatiently wipe the whole bunch of bags at once because that would inevitably leave some bags stained and the whole bunch slightly sticky with a vinegar-esque quality. I set up some paper towels, grabbed one bag at a time, and wiped.  Then I wiped the next one, and the next one, and the next one, until every bag was clean. Once each bag was wiped, each bag was as good as new.  (It would have been a waste to throw away all those bags because underneath all that smelly vinegar, the bags were in perfect condition.) Here’s how it goes for releasing mental concepts: To begin, Realize that You are not the concepts being cleared.  You are simply the neutral, Peaceful, Presence, Being Peace while concepts release.  While releasing concepts, pay attention to each concept while it is being released.  (Trying to multi-task, trying to clean the house while trying to release concepts, for example, does not allow concepts the kind of attention necessary to fully release.  Instead, pay undivided attention to each concept while it is releasing.) Patiently, Loving, tend to one concept at a time.  Trying to release multiple concepts at once may make things seem “clearer”, but that process does not entirely Clear a concept.  (If the process feels impatient, stop “trying”.  Release happens easily and patiently when it is time.) Be with one concept.  Feel the Love and Peace of Being what Is while mentally observing the concept dissolve.  Talk the concept through if it is helpful, “You are free to be what you are, whatever that is, however that is.  You are no longer a mental possession.  You are free.”  Wait.  Mentally observe the concept soften, relax, and let go.  Wait until it is...

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Why clearing the mind Is the answer

Posted on Oct 18, 2012 in examples to show the mind that it is not You, how to release mental concepts | 2 comments

Why clearing the mind Is the answer

Clearing the mind is the Absolute answer. Changing the mind is the “relative” answer.   The Absolute experiences the absolution of ItSelf, which is Perfection. The “relative” experiences the relativity of “separates” (a life experience separate from the True Self, separate from “others”, separate from “things”), which feels like stress.   The Absolute ONLY experiences the Perfection whereas the “relative” ONLY experiences the seeming stress (seeming because the relative experience is an illusory experience despite how real it may sometimes feel).   How is the Absolute Perfection experienced? In an empty mind; a mind free of a sense of separation, free of conditioned mental concepts, free of beliefs.   How is relative stress experienced? In identification with a mind, in identification with separation, conditioned mental concepts, and beliefs.   When you are ready to let go of a separate, false-sense of “me” then the answer is in the Emptiness. If you are more interested in improving relative conditions then the answer will appear to be in relativity.  Relativity will never, ever, ever, lead you to experience the peace it seeks, however, simply because Peace is not in relativity.  Peace IS the Absolute.   Mentally “knowing” this is not enough to experience It.  (Intellectualizing is not the same as Experiencing.) So, now the mind might “know” that it is an illusion.  It might also “know” that the ultimate answer is experienced when the mind is clear of all that “knowing”.  Now what? Now, if you are interested in not knowing, you sit.  You wait.  You notice the mind’s patterns and you do not engage.   A mental concept shows up and you see where it came from, you see how it developed, how it came to be such a seemingly normal thing to experience.  The concept is simply a learned condition, a learned behavior, a learned belief; it is not a Real thing. While You observe the mental concept, You realize that the concept has nothing to do with You at all.  It is simply acting out its learned behavior while You watch. With space from what used to feel like “you” and “yours” it is easy to not feel bothered by whatever comes up because there is space between You and what the mind thinks “you” is.  Things that used to offend you no longer do because You realize that the one feeling offended is not You.  The pressure is gone in This space.  You are simply noticing the mind and its conditioning, that’s all. There is nothing scary happening here.  Anything that initially seems scary seems scary because it has been conditioned to be thought of that way.  Wait, the seeming scariness will pass also.  It is just as unreal as everything else of the mind. Eventually, all of the mind’s noise settles and dissolves.  The past is clear.  Now is free to be experienced as it truly Is. Perfection is at hand. Love is Here. You (the Real, Absolute, You) Are the living Answer.      ...

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How to see beyond a noisy mind

Posted on Sep 12, 2012 in how to release mental concepts | 0 comments

How to see beyond a noisy mind

  Last night I washed and waxed my car.  This morning the car is already covered in dust. Because I currently live down a very dusty road there isn’t any surprise about the car being dusty again, but dang. I looked at that shiny car covered in dust and saw an analogy…   Here it is: A dusty car and a noisy mind have a few things in common.  Let’s look at the dusty car first. Although the car is covered with dust there is nothing wrong with the car itself; it runs perfectly.  The car is even clean underneath all that dust; I can see the sparkles in the paint. The only “problem” is the dust covering the car. (This isn’t really even a problem because the car still runs perfectly.  It’s just that when I look at the car I see dust covering a car instead of directly seeing a clean car.)   The True Self is like the car and mental concepts are like the dust.  When the True Self is covered with mental concepts things look “dusty” (or cloudy, or confusing, or unfair, or something other than the Perfection that Is). Like the car, there is nothing wrong with the True Self when it is covered with mental concepts; It is still Perfection.  Just as the car is clean underneath all that dust, the True Self is clean underneath all those mental concepts. The only “problem” is the mental concepts covering the True Self.  (This isn’t really a problem either because the True Self is still Being ItSelf as Perfection.  It’s just that when i try to experience the True Self with a mind full of mental concepts i only experience the mental concepts covering the True Self instead of directly experiencing the True Self as the Real Me.)   OK, so now what?   Well, part of living down a dusty road means having a dusty car.  I accept that it is sometimes dusty, I clean the car, and repeat (or I move to a place without dust and accept the particulars of a different condition). Either way, my experience of the car is wonderful as long as I realize this.   Part of living in a material world means picking up patterns and collecting mental concepts, which makes the mind seem noisy and the world seem “dusty”.  I accept that life might sometimes seem “dusty or noisy” if i don’t routinely release those patterns.  I release any and all patterns (which is how I experience the Perfection directly), and I repeat (or I live alone in a dark hole and still release all day). Either way, the True Self is Complete and experiences Its Complete Perfection regardless of what a mind thinks or does.   So, it is not that the world is a “dusty” place.  It is that a mind filled with noise makes the world appear dusty.  If you wash away all that dust, Perfection is right Here.   Can You see It?   (Of course You can; You are It.)  ...

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